What To Do When You Are Scared Of The Big One!
When I was younger, I used to love watching Sanford & Son! I loved the theme song and I just thought that Fred Sanford was the biggest crack-up ever. Some of my favorite scenes involved him faking a heart attack (which he did quite often) and calling it “THE BIG ONE” while calling out to his deceased wife, Elizabeth! Here’s an example below:
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I laugh at Fred Sanford, but not too long ago, I realized that I was doing the same thing. I was scared of the BIG ONE! I was just FAKING!! You see, I would get up and write lists. I would have all sorts of things to do. If you called or emailed, I was doing the next thing. I had a plan in mind and I was always working on something. I could get up early and be working and still be working at 10pm.
The question is how much of that work was actual productive work, business work, money-making work? When I looked at it critically, since I was struggling financially, I had to say that a great portion of it wasn’t work “worth” doing at that particular point. My wife asked me about my work hours and when I sat to look at it, I couldn’t honestly justify all that I was doing.
The next question became, “WHY?”
Why was I doing all of this if it wasn’t really benefitting me or anyone else? Here’s a question that many of us ask but don’t really look at. For me, the answer was simple. I was SCARED. I was scared of figuring out what my ONE BIG THING was and then going after that with laser focus. I was scared of FAILING at pursuing THE BIG ONE! Even worse, I was scared of SUCCEEDING while going after THE BIG ONE!! Yes, scared of success! Imagine that! Scared that more would be expected of me once I succeeded! So, I did what most of us do….busied myself with lists and things that I felt needed to happen immediately, but which were not a part of any cohesive plan towards success!! Yes, I did say MOST of us! Some people might be offended by reading that. OK. I’m over it now. And so should you be!
The truth is that if we all were able to figure out our BIG ONE and go after it, we would have a world full of PURPOSE! We don’t have that yet. So, what can you do about it? What can I do about it?
Here are three things that I decided to do:
1. Institute a DISCONNECT DAY – What exactly is that? Well, I am constantly bombarded by phone, iPad, computer, email, etc etc etc. Every so often, I need a day to sit with myself, God, the air, a pen and a paper. No TV, no phone, no connection. I use that time to reset, jot down WHATEVER comes to mind and just think about where I am in life and what I want to do. I may or may not do anything with all of this information but, for me, it’s healthy to get it out
2. Get some friends that are pursuing their BIG ONE – Far be it from me to tell you to get rid of your friends. But, there is something to be said for traveling in packs. People that are ambitious tend to hang around ambitious people. People that complain tend to hang around people that complain. People that are entrepreneurs tend to hang around and seek other entrepreneurs. Some of it is intentional and some of it is by magnetism. I decided to make it intentional. Think about it.
3. Make it visible! – Some people call this a vision board. I wrote in big letters or in big pictures the things that I wanted to accomplish and posted the on the board on the wall in front of my desk. I always want to keep it in front of me.
What is YOUR BIG THING? How are you going after it? Leave your comments below!
By the way, if you wanted to hear the Sanford & Son theme song, GO HERE!